We offer individual conciliation guidance in the form of conflict coaching. Our goal is to help people get to the root
of what drives their choices, communicate effectively, and dismantle any barriers to constructive change so that conflict
can be addressed in a healthy, non-adversarial manner. This is not a clinical counseling approach; rather, the coaching is
based on biblical principles that promote understanding, personal responsibility, justice, and reconciliation. Those
we serve tell us it provides valuable guidance in their pursuit of resolution of conflict, whether it be in a marriage, family,
employment, business, church or other interpersonal setting.
Individual Conciliation Guidance; Offered
in all aspects of our conflict resolution processes
Taking steps toward resolution and reconciliation:
Conflict coaching is provided not only in the initial stage of mediation or conciliation but throughout the process. There
are key steps parties are encouraged to take as the process proceeds. A person involved in a dispute is first given counsel
as to how the dispute might be resolved without requiring litigation, arbitration, or mediation. Sometimes going to the other
person privately and gently and gracefully "speaking the truth in love" (Eph. 4:15) is all it takes to find a solution
and be reconciled. Here is a summary of the four key steps: - Honor values
- For a Christian this means doing everything to the glory of God
- Take responsibility for your role in the conflict
- "Get the Log out of your own eye"
- Examine both attitudes and actions
- Offer meaningful
apology for your contribution to the conflict
- Help the other party take responsibility for their role in
the conflict - "Gently restore"
- Be prepared to listen to understand rather than respond
- Seek mutual understanding of divergent perceptions of the circumstances
- Share impacts of the conflict
without judging
- Pursue restoration and resolution "Go and be reconciled"
- Be prepared
to respond to an apology with forgiveness
- Seek clarity and agreement concerning the issue to be addressed
- Seek clarity of positions and understanding of each other's interests
- Develop and evaluate potential
solutions that meet each other's interests